Yesterday I read this blog entry by my Uncle (My Maama):bizarreprodigy, Read a few lines at that time and I saw my senior Anil around my desk and I called him up for a small discussion.

I WAS of the view that “Selfless good deeds do exist” for many years but past 2 years of my life have changed me a lot and this thinking too was changed 2 years back. Lately I have been of the view that “Selfless good deeds DON’T exist” but Thanks to Anil who proved me wrong by sharing a few instances with me. Had it been somebody else other than Anil I wouldn’t have accepted the fact that yes Selfless good deeds do exist. He started with a few examples but in the end my answer to all was: “Sirji we do good for others to keep us self satisfied in a way that we feel proud about it that today we helped somebody, tomorrow God will do something good for us…. Ok some of us won’t think this way too but still they will always fall in the category of inner satisfaction… They do good to make themselves satisfied in life, which according to me is something still selfish.”

But then what he proved to me:

“Indirectly we are affecting lives of people, sometimes strangers around us in a better way… We don’t know when we have influenced others and helped them in this life… As an example when I am doing/talking something categorized as good,  if somebody is watching me, listening to me and getting influenced in a better way then we are definitely helping the other person selflessly “.

Well this was something concrete to me…. I accepted this.

Then I continued with this discussion with two of my new best friends Rumani and Raina in bus. Rumani and Raina were both of the view that Selfless good deeds do exist. I told to them that anything I do in this life is directly or indirectly for my self benefit. Rumani kept on holding to her point that basic needs like eating for one’s survival should be kept aside from this discussion but here too I didn’t agree with her. I am eating, drinking water for MYSELF i.e. being selfish… It turned out to be a long good discussion…

Then in the evening I came across one more thought to prove myself wrong. It goes like this: “”If we are in a state of unawareness and there we are doing something good for others then this might be called as a selfless good deed. Example: From 0-6 years of her/his age a child is in a state of unawareness, but this little child will make her/his parents, family, people around them happy.. No reason but children do make 99.99% of us happy all the time, No matter what…. “

I am gonna conclude it here but to the readers of this post I would love to know more examples to prove me wrong again….
Also, while writing this My maama commented on a post which I would like you to read: ” Bhanje – when you write about it, do think and mention “why is it important to have Selfless Good deeds”, why cant we all be happy with “good deeds”"…. Looking forward for your comments on this too…

Live and Let live…. Peace!!

Second post when hardly an hour has passed that I created my first ever blog. Hmm Probably they call it the power of blogging.

Alright,

Being Slave!

I many times see some people (even myself) becoming a slave for others. Some opt for this mainly because of their personal benefit which is about to come in the near future and some silly ones accept the fact that the master wont gift them any benefit but they still love being a slave. Let’s talk about these silly ones as without any reason they love hurting themselves just for the comfort of others. Yes I am not referring to anything related to work or job rather I am talking about relationships: be it friends, committed couples, married couples or even siblings. Some of us start loving the pain which it feels when you selflessly just think about others.
But how much is enough? I have seen many silly ones out there who just give up everything for their loved ones and thereby spoil their own life. Some of them say they ain’t living this life for themselves, and then one or the other day the master starts taking things for granted. I guess this is where the insanity comes into picture. Even the master then doesn’t have control over it.

So how much is enough? What is the limit of selflessly helping others? We don’t have a life to live? Should we just feel proud about the fact that by accepting the pain we are gifting others with some comfort? How much?